James exhorts, “Above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or with any other oath. Your ‘yes’ must be ‘yes,’ and your ‘no’ must be ‘no,’ so that you won’t fall under judgment.”
Yesterday, on the interstate driving to pick up my daughter from an international airport, a man dangerously cut me off as I was changing lanes at 65 to 70 mph. I am ashamed to say, in my moment of terror I was angry at him. He must have known by my gesture how angry I felt, because he suddenly put on his brakes and moved his car in my direction. Sensing immediate danger, I pulled around the right side of the truck I had been attempting to pass legally on the left. The car continued to follow me. I thought I saw a police officer on a motorcycle on the exit ramp, so I got off the interstate. The car continued to follow me. By this time, I was fearful and very ashamed of myself for losing my temper. A bout of ‘road rage’ had struck, and I was afraid was now about to backfire on me.
As I came up the ramp I realized the motorcyclist was not a police officer. The red light caught me; the car pulled up beside me in the other turning lane. I quickly glanced at the driver. An African American gentleman was sitting behind the wheel screaming at me. I looked away. I never looked back at him. He continued to call me names — names used by racists. I smiled to myself even as I grew more and more afraid. I got out my cell phone and tried to dial the highway patrol to no avail. So, I called 9-1-1. All through this, the man continued to scream obscenities at me and once he threw something at my window. That ‘plink’ on the glass startled me, but I still did not look at the man. As the light turned green, he sped away from me as I followed him back onto the interstate. I let him pull away while I spoke to the dispatcher at 9-1-1.
She asked me all sorts of questions, but the important one — what caused him to behave that way? — was the only one I didn’t answer truthfully. I told her I was carrying a gun, but that I didn’t pull it out of my glove compartment. I told her the man was very angry and kept yelling at me, that he threw a rock or some item from his car at my car. Did he damage your car? No, m’am. Can you see him now? Yes, m’am. Her questions continued for quite awhile; this is not common in my area of the country. Usually, the dispatcher listens and then closes the conversation rather quickly. This woman kept asking me about the incident, seemingly trying to locate the man in the car along the interstate. I began to drive into a rainstorm and ended the 9-1-1 call so that I would not have an accident.
I kept driving. Only later did I cry, realizing how evil (and stupid!) I’d been and how blessed I’d been almost at the same time.
“Therefore, confess your sins one to the other and pray for one another, so that you may be healed.” (James 5:16)
11 thoughts on ““Of Anger, Swearing, and Lies — Sin” ( James 5: 12, HCSB ) by Carley Evans”
Wow, glad this didn’t turn out much worse, Carley. Unfortunately, we live in a day when this has become common. Inside our offices and other areas of where I work there are posted warnings about this — road rage. As angry as i become (just as you did) I try to keep this in mind when driving.
Praise be to God we have an Advocate who forgives us for our ever-yielding to the old dead man, the flesh.
It is special that you choose to live your life in a glass house — as we all should, especially if we name the name of Christ. The world needs to see us for who we are, sinners saved by grace. God bless.
Thanks so much, mtsweat for your understanding and forgiving heart. God is good; He is the only One who is truly good. The rest of us are indeed “sinners saved by grace.” And, I’m thankful to God too — of course — that my behavior did not have worse consequences for me and my family. God bless you. Carley
Oh Carley, I’m so thankful you’re all right. We all have moments we react instinctively instead of acting deliberately. Thank you for your vulnerability. And thank God His grace is always sufficient.
Amen, Debbie. I so appreciate your kindness. God bless.
Wow. That was scary. I’ve gotten better at controlling my reactions (at least the visible reactions) while driving, just for that very reason. You never know who’s behind the wheel of that other car. I got furious at someone for slamming on their breaks at a traffic signal one day last week, when it turned yellow. I almost ran into the car. I was angry, because we both could have made it through the intersection before the light turned red, and I was tired and wanted to be home. Later, as I passed the car, I saw that it was being driven by a tiny, elderly lady. Boy, did I feel stupid…and humble.
I’m glad you are okay. There’s certainly no judgment coming from this corner. We are all human, and sometimes more “human” then others.
Thanks! You are very kind, and very wise. God bless, “bickleyhouse.”
Glad to hear you are safe! We all can have good days and we can have bad days in whatever we do. And the same is true in our Christian walk. Thanks for being vulnerable. I’m sure our Lord forgives you!
Thanks Joe. And if Jesus doesn’t forgive me, oops — I am in B-I-G trouble! LOL. No, seriously thank you for your kind words. Carley
“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” (Proverbs 19:11)
Hi Carley; I was a truck driver for the last 10 yrs of my working life and believe me I can understand road rage.. Many time’s I have had to ask the Lord for forgiveness.. But I think that there are situations that happen in our life so that we are checked by the Lord ” If you will” to see also If we have a forgving hart as well, and so I believe that The Lord ” Forgave you as you forgave… Praise the Lord… and God Bless you….
Thanks much, Old Brush Arbors. I do forgive the man — he also reacted with anger to my anger. God is good; without forgiveness, no one will see Him. God bless you, too.