One of the saddest personality flaws is the inability to know and believe that you are loved. Janis Joplin had such a personality flaw; she was incapable of believing people loved her. Despite accolades for her music, she lead a barren existence of self-doubt, self-hatred, and abject loneliness. By loneliness, I am not referring to solitude, but to that feeling of complete isolation in the midst of shouting people — people shouting adoration and respect and yes — love. The loneliest moments for Janis were likely those in the midst of her public admirers. Janis also unfortunately did not know and believe the love of those closest to her, no matter how they tried to convince her. She found herself totally unlovable.
The author of 1 John writes that “we know and believe the love that God has to us. God is love.”
What an amazing statement — read it again. “We know and believe the love that God has to [or toward] us.” Why? Because “God is love.” And if we know and believe God, then we know and believe His love. Like Paul reminds, “If God be for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31) “What shall separate us from the love of Christ?” (Romans 8:35) Essentially, assures Paul, nothing “shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus, our Lord.” (Romans 8:39)
Do not insult God. Do not hold yourself in such low esteem that you fail to realize God is love. Know and believe the love God has toward you! His love does not depend upon you; His love is wholly dependent upon the sacrifice of His Son.
So true Carley. I treasure the words, “His love does not depend upon you…” Thanks and God bless.
Oh, so do I. God bless, M.T.
Thank you Paul.
Thank you for this post. This is a very real condition, and it’s very hard to treat. The pain can be overwhelming. Parents love your children unconditionally, that’s what you get from them no matter what you do. xoxo
The love of God is able to overcome the pain resulting from parents who may be incapable of loving unconditionally — so many parents are scarred themselves from being harmed by no love, love-less-ness, or improper ‘love’. Give God a chance, Suicide Blonde. He can and will heal. Blessings always, Carley
Thanks heartical. Blessings.