“The Two Become One” (Ephesians 5: 25 – 26, HCSB) by Carley Evans


A man “is to love his wife as himself.” (Ephesians 5: 31) A man is to love his wife “just as Christ loves the church and gives Himself for her.” A man is “to love [his] wife as [his] own body. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5: 28) He is to “provide and care for” his wife as he cares for his “own flesh.” (Ephesians 5: 29)

“This mystery is profound,” writes Paul. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” (Ephesians 5: 32, 31)

When a man hates his wife, he hates himself. And “the Lord is a witness between [the man] and the wife of [his] youth.” God says, “‘You act treacherously against her, though she is your marriage partner and your wife by covenant.’

“Didn’t the one God make us with a remnant of His life-breath? And what does the One seek? A godly offspring. So watch yourselves carefully, and do not act treacherously against the wife of your youth.”

God says, ” ‘If [you] hate and divorce [your] wife, [you] cover [your] garment with injustice.’ ” (Malachi 2: 14 -16)

If you hate and divorce your wife, the wife of your youth; then you hate your own body, your own flesh. And this mystery is also profound. When two become one flesh, the tearing apart renders each less than the whole.

“You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, with weeping and groaning, because He no longer respects your offerings or receives them gladly from your hands.” (Malachi 2: 13)

A man is to care for his wife as he cares for his own body, his own self for he and his wife are one.