Paul starts off by telling the church at Rome that he isn’t speaking from himself, but “by the grace given to” him. Most of the time, we know this. As I recall only once did Paul say “I, not the Lord” when he wrote the church. So I find it interesting that he starts this section about spiritual gifts with a reminder to his readers that the Lord is speaking.
The Lord commands “everyone among (us) not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think.”
Poor self-esteem is a problem common to humankind. We look in the mirror, and we don’t like what we see. Either we are too short, too tall; our hair is too curly, not curly enough; our waist is too big, our legs are too skinny; our face is too dull, our teeth are just crooked! We buy all kinds of stuff to try to overcome our failed self-image. Obviously, nothing works.
Pride is a problem common to humankind. We look at our works, and we think: ‘Hey, that’s pretty fine. I did that. I like that. I wonder if anyone else noticed how good that was; that thing I did for God.’
Jesus says when we ponder our selves, “to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.” Sober judgment: judgment that is “calm, clear-headed, composed, dignified, lucid, sensible, steady, subdued, tranquil and unexciting.” (Oxford Thesaurus)
We are members of the body of Christ, and “individually members one of another.” (Romans 12: 5) Each one has his or her own level of grace and particular spiritual gift(s) which God “has assigned.”
Therefore, let us not think more highly of ourselves than we ought.